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Widower, 75, puts poster in his window begging for friends after being left ‘cursed’ by loneliness when his wife died

A WIDOWER has put up a poster in his window begging for friends after being left ‘cursed’ by loneliness when his wife died.

Tony Williams, 75, often goes days without speaking to anyone after the love of his life Jo, also 75, died in May.

Retired physicist Tony has no children or family nearby and said he feels “cursed” by loneliness.

He said he often sits at home willing the phone to ring “but it never does”.

Tony put two adverts in his local newspaper for £120 looking for someone to talk to, but didn’t get any replies.

He then had business cards made to find pals to listen to music with or sit in the garden alongside.

Tony handed them out whenever he went to the supermarket or for a walk and even though he gave his card away – no one had called him.

Now the widower has put up a poster in his window asking for friends.

Chatty Tony said: “It’s my last resort. I’ve tried everything to make friends, but it feels like nobody wants to talk to me.

“Not very many people pass my house, but I was hoping it would spread around the community, and someone might reach out.

“Jo was my best friend and we had a lovely life. But now I’m all by myself. My wonderful wife has just died, and I have nobody.

“All I want is for somebody to see the sign and phone me up. I just want a nice conversation so I’m not sat in silence all day long.

“I’m not looking for someone to listen to me cry – I just want a normal person who I can chat to! I can talk to anybody about anything.

“I spend most days just sat in the house in silence, just waiting for the phone to ring … but it never does.”

Tony met Jo, a legal secretary, in a bar more than 35 years ago, and their marriage was “perfect harmony”.

The couple were unable to have any children, and lived in Kempley, Gloucs., for 25 years before moving to Alton, East Hampshire lat year to be closer to Jo’s sister.

We had no secrets and we could be totally open with each other – we really were soul mates

Tony said: “We first met one night in a bar, and we got on so well.

“It was just incredible. It was like I’d known her all my life. She was just so lovely.

“Our relationship was always so natural. We had no secrets and we could be totally open with each other – we really were soul mates.”

He added: “Sometimes we’d spend hours cooking, laughing and listening to music together – it was the highlight of our day.

“We also had a huge, beautiful garden with an orchard. In the summer months, I’d do the gardening and Jo would come and sit outside with me. Everything was just perfect.”

Shortly after they moved, Jo fell ill with pancreatic cancer and died just nine days after the diagnosis.

Tony has lived in silence ever since.

He said: “Now I’m here, completely alone, in the house where my lovely wife spent her dying days.

“Every time I walk in the room, the first thing I do is look at her photograph.”

Tony’s neighbours said they have offered to help him – but he said he’s after a friend his own age to pass the time.

The sign he put up in his window last week, said: “I have lost Jo, my lovely wife and soul mate.

“I have no friends and nobody to talk to.

“I find the unremitting silence 24-hours-a-day unbearable torture. Can nobody help me”

Tony said he isn’t close to his late wife’s family, and his own three siblings live far away.

He added: “I just want a friend, and I hope my sign will find someone for me.”

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