Beartooth’s frontman, Caleb Shomo, revealed his sexual orientation in an open and sincere essay on Saturday.
In the midst of “a lot of speculation surrounding [his] personal life,” the 33-year-old rock musician revealed his sexual orientation on Instagram.
Soon after, Fleur Shomo (“ Terry), his 13-year wife, posted a statement on her social media page in which she discussed their “disorienting and heartbreaking” breakup and offered support for Caleb.
In a long post to his 213,000 Instagram followers, Caleb started off by talking about “something I’ve been unpacking and reckoning with in my life for quite some time now.”
He wrote, “I feel compelled to set the record straight before it affects those I love any further.””I am a proudly gay man.”
He went on to say that he had found it “difficult” to “navigate the feelings surrounding the subject and figure out what to do with this fact.”
Caleb Shomo, the frontman of Beartooth, came out as a “proudly gay man” in an Instagram message on Saturday. He was spotted performing in New Orleans in 2025.
Fleur Shomo, his 13-year wife, wrote a message of support shortly after, sharing details of their “disorienting and hurtful” breakup.
Before getting married in 2012, the couple had been dating for almost two years. They had no children together.
Caleb clarified in his statement that he “always” incorporated “the deepest part of my soul” into his music and artwork.
He then discussed the four “very self-deprecating [Beartooth] albums” he had made prior to his release.
According to Caleb, his earlier music addressed “his religious upbringing, depression, self hatred, self loathing, and hopelessness.”
“I am grateful for all these albums, yet feel embarrassed at times that I wouldn’t allow myself to really dig up the roots for so long,” he stated, adding that he “will express [himself] whole heartedly and fully” in the songs from his next album.
“It’s been a direct path to me reconciling with my sexuality in hopes that it will eventually lead to me experiencing self-love,” he continued. “I spent ten years burying feelings with alcohol, and honestly when I decided to put it down and focus on exploring why I felt this way for so long,” he said.
“I think this is a massive part of that journey,” according to Caleb, who has been “trying to finally be proud of who I am.”
Caleb stated that his previous music addressed “his religious upbringing, depression, self hatred, self loathing, and hopelessness.”
Additionally, he acknowledged that before “reconciling with my sexuality,” he “spent a decade burying feelings with alcohol.”
In closing, he thanked his supporters and urged those who are “struggling with who they are” to “give [themselves] grace.”
Fleur emphasized the “fun, adventure, and love” they shared for more than ten years, even though Caleb did not mention their marriage in his statement.
Before getting married in 2012, the couple had been dating for almost two years. They had no children together.
Additionally, Caleb considered the four “very self-deprecating [Beartooth] albums” he produced before to coming out.
“I am eternally indebted to those who have shown me love and empowerment by living freely and openly in my presence, supporting the queer community, or just telling me you love me whoever I am. I hope you know what you mean to me.”
Additionally, he urged others to “be honest” and “do the hard work instead of burying it down as deep as you physically can thinking it will change like I did.”
“Keeping these things inside only hurts you and people around you,” Caleb continued. “Love you all, and hopefully this is a step toward one day loving myself.”
Caleb’s wife Fleur wrote a supportive message and talked about their “disorienting and hurtful” breakup just hours after he made his open declaration.
I’m not sure how to begin because is it really necessary to say anything? Fleur started, “But I guess I’ll just dive right in.”
“The past few months have been a very disorienting and hurtful time to navigate,” she admitted. For the two of us.
She went on to stress that she “will always want to love, protect, and support Caleb.” Over the years, I have been more concerned with his welfare than anything else.
She talked about “wanting to help but not knowing how” after witnessing her husband go through “the confusion and pain he went through” prior to his release.
Fleur, Caleb’s wife, broke her silence with a statement five hours after he posted.
A video of her and Caleb dancing together was shown on the opening slide.
She talked about how she felt about the “duality of this situation” and expressed her support for Caleb coming out.
She acknowledged his “confusion and pain” during the “hardest time in [his] life” and added that, despite attempting to support him, she was “losing everything” at the same time.
She talked openly about the “isolation” she felt and claimed that when she was “not … able to talk to people about this,” her “mental health suffered.”
She concluded by praising their “wonderful” love story and declaring that their marriage was “done.”
She gave an encouraging statement about what she will be “focusing on” moving forward.
Like Caleb, she promised to “love, protect, and support” him going forward. She also sent a message of encouragement to “anyone [else] in the world going through this.”
She said that she would “ask [herself] constantly if [she was] a bad person for wondering wtf this means for your world & the anger you also feel.”
“I am the only one dealing with this situation’s duality,” she wrote. “It has been extremely difficult to figure out how to support him while losing everything.”
Fleur continued, saying, “You can be totally destroyed and lose yourself at the same time as you love and support your person through the hardest time in their life.”
While remembering their love story and lamenting its termination, she declared that she would not “question [their] history.”
She wrote, “I have always wanted nothing more than for Caleb to be happy.” It has been a learning curve we never anticipated going through together, trying to help him through this without knowing what to do.
Beartooth, which he created in 2012, has Caleb as its lead vocalist. From left to right in this July 2014 photo: bassist Oshie Bichar, guitarist Taylor Lumley, drummer Brandon Mullins, guitarist Kamron Bradbury, and Caleb
Before sharing his coming out story, Caleb said that he “always” put “the deepest part of my soul” into his music and artwork.
She also acknowledged that she had been feeling “isolated” and said that because she had been handling her emotions in private “because it has not been my story to share,” her “mental health has suffered.”
“Our nearly 14-year marriage was amazing, full of love, adventure, and fun.” “And no one can ever truly know what depths of love exist between two people unless they are those people,” she continued. “Nobody will know anything about our marriage like we do.”
Before ending her message, she stated, “I hope anyone in the world going through this finds hope & courage & I hope the fans can continue to support Caleb.”
She promised to keep “focusing on what I can control & continue living my life trying to achieve what I want to achieve” in the future. And I’m confident that things will gradually improve, day by day, bit by bit, bird by bird, provided I continue to say hello to as many dogs as I can along the road.
