A woman’s last-ditch effort to see her parents… ‘I feel helpless, terrified, angry, and sad.’
The restriction of visiting rights has left a distraught mother with both her parents in care on the point of a mental collapse, she says. The bereft daughter campaigned for a special status that would allow her to visit her terminally sick mother.
But, in a story that millions of families have heard, she has been repeatedly turned down.
Over her repeated appeals, her mother’s £1,400-a-week home threatened to expel the 76-year-old dementia patient.
She revealed the plight of people who have been overlooked in the Covid emergency as the rest of the UK enjoys independence last night.
The working mother of two, who spoke on the condition of anonymity, said she was obliged to sell her mother’s home to pay for her care.
“I am upset at the authority these care homes have and the decisions they make under the guise of keeping their residents safe,” the 46-year-old added. That isn’t the case. They only care about our money and are unconcerned about the fact that their residents are dying of loneliness.
“I stopped sleeping, which was ironic because I was completely exhausted. I’d cry for days on end. Antidepressants were given for me.”
The incident comes as the government advises care homes to allow each resident to name an essential care giver who can visit “under any circumstances.”
Despite this, many people simply disregard the advice.
“I have never stepped foot inside Mum’s house other than for one visit in a special area with a screen separating us,” the daughter added. Her condition has completely deteriorated. Being locked away for so long and not understanding why has taken its toll.
“My children are ten and six years old, and they will never see their grandmother again. She will perish as a result of her illness.”
Her horrific story is about a home in East Sussex that was rated “Good” by the Care Quality Commission and is administered by a corporation that has residential, nursing, and dementia homes all throughout the country.
The restriction of visiting privileges contrasts with her father’s status in a Suffolk nursing home, where he, too, suffers from dementia.
“I was automatically declared an important care giver and can come and go as I please,” she explained.
“I sit quietly, disliking my mother’s caregivers but unable to object because there is nothing I can do until there is a legislation to protect us,” she continued.
Campaigners are pushing for legislation. “Brinkwire News in Condensed Form.”