I am a man of 86 years who enjoyed a successful sex life.
But I unexpectedly discovered last week that no matter how much my wife tried to help or how many porn videos I watched, I was unable to achieve orgasm.
Do I just have a temporary orgasm break, or have I lost my capacity to ejaculate forever? Is it true that another orgasmic moment will not be encountered by my body? Help me, will you? I am hopeless. The cause of anorgasmia or the failure to become aroused or ejaculate is not age itself.
So it’s important to try and reduce your understandable fear of it and do some detective work and find out what’s changed after you were able to climax for the last time. Did you change your drugs? Did you take some new over-the-counter drugs? Has your tension heightened? Have you suffered sorrow or loss? You’ve been more depressed or nervous lately… Your capacity to climax can be influenced by all of these variables.
Ask your doctor for an option if you think it could be a drug issue.
It’s all about discovering the root cause.
I know we are all going through a very difficult time, so finding some methods to relax and reduce stress at home would be helpful. Try to exercise in moderation if your doctor allows it. You could also get a general medical checkup and perhaps request some hormone supplements.
Consider seeking therapeutic help online if you think you would benefit from it.
Age itself is not the problem. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specializes in treating sexual disorders.
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