NIAMH Spence was just a teenager when she had her first miscarriage at university.
The PR manager from Manchester was 19 years old when she miscarried at six weeks.
Baby Loss Awareness Week starts tomorrow and highlights the trauma of losing a baby and offers others the chance to share their experiences in the knowledge that they are not alone.
More than one in five pregnancies in the UK (a quarter of a million a year) end in miscarriage and most happen in the first three months of pregnancy.
While it’s not as common, miscarriages can happen up to the 24th week or pregnancy and loss after this is known as stillbirth.
Niamh, now 30, has revealed how she was forced to go through multiple miscarriages before she was able to get any counselling.
She also discusses how she woke in the night to a “horrific blood bath” after she miscarried during a holiday to Barcelona.
Here she tells her story and reveals how her body felt like it was her worst enemy…
I had my first miscarriage when I was 19 at university with a boyfriend at the time. I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was miscarrying at six weeks.
I was bleeding heavily, so went to my GP who told me I was pregnant but miscarrying. I was in a state of shock, and left to fend for myself – told to go home and rest, and that was that. No mention of any support of counselling.
I went to see my boyfriend at his house, went to bed and didn’t get up for two days.
His housemates remember that time quite clearly, me in a state and not knowing what was going on.
I did my best to brush it all off, burying myself in all the things I had to get on with for university, but I never really dealt with it or got on with it.
I then fell pregnant in April 2017, a happy accident with a new partner.
Again, I started bleeding heavily at six weeks, so phoned the NHS out of hours phone number, and went to the Manchester Royal Infirmary.
There I had blood tests and a trans-vaginal ultrasound, which showed that while there was a sack, the foetus wasn’t developing.
I was told the pregnancy wasn’t viable, and given some pills to take to bring on the miscarriage, then sent home.
It was all so clinical, with no mention of support or counselling, and no discussion of why this might’ve happened twice at the same time in my pregnancy.
It was horrific, again dealing with all the negative emotions of… Brinkwire Brief News.