MODEL Miranda Kerr recently said of ex Orlando Bloom’s new fiancée Katy Perry: ‘We hang out . . . I really love and appreciate Katy.’
And Katy calls Miranda ‘my gal’. Here, two writers debate on whether you can ever be friends with your partner’s ex-love.
“GOOD on Katy Perry for showing she’s not only the queen of candy floss pop but also a cool, evolved woman. It’s such nonsense the idea women can’t be friends with their partner’s ex-girlfriends.
“It’s a cliche based on the other lie that women hate other women. I suspect both were fibs invented by men to keep us apart because we are so much stronger together.
“The most interesting (and savvy) women I know are close with their partner’s ex. Why wouldn’t they be given all the advantages? Of course when you start seeing someone it’s normal to worry about who they were dating before you.
“My previous partner’s ex was younger and hotter than me. She was funny, worked as a flying doctor and could drink men under the table. She was the kind of person Angelina Jolie would play in a film so, naturally, at first I was jealous.
“I worried about whether my boyfriend had loved her more, if she’d been better in bed or if they’d had a closer relationship. One night I stopped worrying and went out drinking with her instead and realised the fact she was so damn cool didn’t make her my enemy but someone I wanted as my friend.
I was so fond of her we stayed friends — even after the boyfriend and I broke up.
“Credit your partner with any taste at all and it makes sense you’d get on with their ex. You probably have a lot in common. People have a type, not just in looks but in other qualities, so I know my partner’s exes will be other outspoken women. Why care who your boyfriend used to sleep with now it’s you he’s dating?
“As the meme goes: You’re in his DMs, I’m in his bed. You may as well make peace with your partner’s exes because you always end up bumping into them – usually while you’re out looking awful, hungover in the supermarket buying Veet.
“Much better that you should get in there first and ask them out for a drink. I loved getting to know my partner’s ex. We went on group holidays, chatted on WhatsApp and had messy nights out – once getting so hammered we woke up together in my bed. (Nothing happened!)
“Katy and Miranda are so close they have holidays and Christmas… Brinkwire Brief News.