I pity the spouses of travelers; their lives are so mundane, and I’d never clean all day if it weren’t for the fact that my husband pays for everything.
Female travelers are expected to adhere to tight guidelines, spending their days cooking, cleaning, and raising large families.
Nikia Marshall, 22, a Romany gypsy who married into the community, says it’s a “boring” life and abandoned being a housewife six months after marrying Michael, a 38-year-old Romany gypsy.
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The outspoken businesswoman, who now sells cosmetics and clothing, used to work as a glamour model and says she doesn’t care if it’s considered “shameful” by others.
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Nikia explains to Fabulous: “I’m not a classic traveler’s housewife, and I’m not interested in being one. Every day, I don’t have time to tidy.
“I yell at Michael and tell him what’s up. He has to cook and clean with me, I work as much as he does, and we live a 50/50 lifestyle.
“When we initially met, I lived like a regular traveling woman, but I immediately realized that I would have been bored.
“I pity the women who have to live such life; may God bless them. How can cooking, cleaning a trailer, and having children be your sole goals in life? It’s completely absurd.
“Women were created for something more. We have brains, and we’re usually smarter than men. I believe that women should live complete lives rather than sit around and say, “I’ve had ten kids, so I’m happy now.”
“That would depress me rather than make me joyful. ‘I’ve had all these kids, I’ve relied on a man my whole life, what am I doing?’ I’d be wondering.” I’d leave Michael if I had to remain at home and clean all day and wasn’t permitted to do anything else with my life. That’s not the life for me.” The gender dynamic in the house is more traditional when it comes to Michael’s role.
Michael formerly tarmacked driveways and now operates his own roofing firm, admitting he’s been “hawking” for sales since he was 12 years old.
Despite the fact that Nikia works, Michael believes it is his responsibility as the spouse to cover all expenses, as his wife admits: “He pays for the roof over my head.”
I rapidly became bored. I pity the women that have to live that way. How can cooking, cleaning a trailer, and having children be your sole goals in life? That would make me depressed. Michael continues: “That is conventional, and it comes from being a gentleman of the old school. It’s my responsibility to open doors, bring out chairs, and pay for everything.
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