The season of “The Bachelor” by Matt James has just started, but it has a very fascinating cast of women already. A vibrator was brought in by one candidate, another assumed she was a queen, and another wore goat’s shoes.
But as the first deaf contestant, the woman who earned his first impression rose on the first night, also made Bachelor history.
And there was no question that, right from the beginning, she would tell him about her impairment. But when she goes on dates, that’s not necessarily the case.
Matt James gave Abigail Heringerer his first impression of Rose
‘The Bachelor’: The First Experience of Matt James Rose Select – Abigail Heringer – and what we know about her
As a 25-year-old finance executive from Beaverton, OR, ABC’s official website lists Abigail Heringer. It also says she enjoys spending time with her family and she’s an outdoor sort when she’s not working.
She shared, as soon as she got out of the limo to meet James, that something was a little different about her, revealing that she was deaf. She was born totally deaf and able to read her lips.
“I’m going to be reading your lips a lot tonight, but luckily you have really nice lips,” she told The Bachelor. “So I’m not complaining!”
James kindly responded to her that he would make sure he was always “pronounces” for her in the future.
Above all, James wanted the women to open up and be vulnerable, and Heringer did that from the beginning.
Abigail normally doesn’t tell guys on a first date about her hearing impairment, but she felt it was important to tell Matt and be open.
Abigail told hosts Rachel Lindsay and Becca Kufrin – both former Bachelorettes – during her appearance on the Bachelor Happy Hour podcast on Jan. 5 that she was not able to talk about it as openly and as early as she had in the past with Matt James on dates.
She said she came to “The Bachelor” because she felt like she was getting identical, boring results from daily searches or online dating and decided to check this out.
And in doing so, she realized she just wanted to get the job done. She had a feeling that James was really sincere and caring and would agree in a way that on other dates in the past she may have been afraid of.
She told the podcast hosts about her disability, “I knew he would be able to challenge me to have those conversations,” She just wanted to put it out there and be weak. “I just thought if I go and do something that’s so far out of my comfort zone and something I’ve never done before, maybe I’ll get really good results.”
Kufrin asked Heringer if she knew she was going to tell James that she was hearing impaired or not from the beginning, and that’s when she said that on the first date, it’s not something she usually shares with guys.
But she knew that with James it would be different.
The tale of Heringer is actually a huge deal for the depiction of deaf people on reality TV.
That’s something I just don’t tell on a first date.
Even though it’s a huge part of me,’ said Abigail. But it’s just a secret impairment, because when I wear my hair down, you can’t really see my cochlear implants.
And telling someone on a first date is kind of scary.
And you just don’t know how they would take it.
In a crowded venue where she didn’t catch what her date was saying to her half the time, Heringer also recalled a date.
Yet participating in the process meant having it all out in the open, and she knew it was the best way to do it.
“It was something that had been so unsettling to me, so to open up and see that he not only acknowledges it, but even sees it as a really attractive quality was a really special moment,” Abigal said. “It kind of came full circle.”
And Heringer’s story was a perfect moment for reality TV representation, too.
“NAD appreciates any opportunity for audiences to see real deaf and hard-of-hearing people on television because it leads to more openness and acceptance of deaf and hard-of-hearing people in all sectors of society,”NAD appreciates any opportunity for audiences to see real deaf and hard-of-hearing people on television because it leads to more openness and acceptance of deaf and hard-of-hearing people in all sectors of society.
Of course, the season had just began, but Abigail’s love story had a wonderful first night.
And for first impressions, she got the rose, which is normally a positive omen for her to go far on “The Bachelor”